Well I had the relay and fuse in, but it still didn't work.
I followed the wiring from the back of my plug next to the hitch and followed it up under the bed, above the spare tire. There I found it unplugged from the harness that goes to the front of the truck.
The female half of the plug was full of dirt that came out (all over my face) when I looked at it. Plugged it in, but the plugs wouldn't snap together.
checked again and still not working. I'm guessing that the plugs that were unplugged for a year got full of dirt and water and just aren't making a good connection.
Unless someone has a great idea, I'm gonna take it into the dealer for warranty. Just hate doing that, because they take forever and it's mostly a hack job.