Thanks Bird and J, you guys rock. So to recap:
1.) The black wire coming out of my lights is the ground, hook that up to my frame or something like the bolt Aarons mentions - Check!
2.)The white or red wire coming out of the light is for power. The will be wired up to one of the power upfitters pass through wires in the engine bay, and then behind the glove box, that will be wired up to one of the upfitter switch "hot" wires (Probably 3 or 4).
3.) Move the 10a fuse from switch 4 to 3, to run the 20" and then put a 5A in for switch 4 to run the 2x 6" lights.
And just to clarify, the white wire (power) from each 6" light will be wired up to the one upfitter wire i designate for upfitter 4. So 3 wires will get pigtailed or soldered together.
Thanks Bird and J, you guys rock, sorry for all of my rookie questions, but thank you so much for helping and answering. I think i'm ready to go. going to get the wiring supplies and hopefully install my hoot mounts later today.